Carol Moss, LCSW, Certified EMDR Therapist

Mad* Woman (Middle Aged Diva) – Part 4

As she walked in nature, pondering her anger, Claudia felt foolish and self indulgent. “This is stupid,” she thought. “Anger is for out of control people and if anything, I’ve learned to control those childish impulses as I’ve aged.” But had she really? Or had she merely found ways to numb herself through keeping busy, or eating or gossiping or having a glass of wine every night. As she pondered this, Claudia felt.. Read More

Mad* Woman – Part 3 (* middle aged diva)

“I surrender,” said Claudia, when her aunt picked up the phone. Before her aunt could get a word in, Claudia continued, “Listen, you know that Women’s Retreat thing you’ve been trying to get me to go to for, like, years? Well, I think I’m ready to do it, and I wondered if you wouldn’t mind giving me all the information…again.” Claudia carefully wrote down the information, hung up and redialed the phone. Happily,.. Read More

“M” is for Mad Woman, Part 2

Claudia went to sleep, exhausted, and slept fitfully. Upon awakening, she was aware that she’d had some wild and unimaginable dreams, as always. Her dreams seemed to be taking on a life of their own. This particular morning, she actually remembered one that involved a long road and that the road had spoken to her. “How could this be?” she wondered in her awakened state. And yet, in the dream, she was sure.. Read More

“M” is for Mad Woman – Part 1

Diary of a Mad* Woman  ~ (*Middle Aged Diva) – Part 1 Claudia was a not so young suburban mom who feared her beauty was fading quickly. She’d worked so hard on her home, her kids, her career and her community, but she often felt she wasn’t good enough. She had spent many years taking care of others, watching Oprah regularly, taking yoga, being kind and generous and many people depended on her… Read More

“L” is for Laughter

It’s been said that the shortest distance between two people is laughter. What’s better than softening your gaze and realizing the hilarity all around you. According to Abdul Laraji, a sound healer, laughter stimulates the adrenal glands, making you healthier. I notice that when I laugh really hard, it seems that — sorry, this is kind of gross — a gallon of gunk gets cleared from my throat and lungs and I feel.. Read More

“J” is for judgment (not!)

With the holidays and family gatherings and stress upon us, I find it altogether too easy to retreat to a very old rut called judgment. Whether it’s judging myself — “I’m too old,” “I should be in better shape,” “My house is a mess, “– or others — “They’re crazy,” “Why don’t they just….(fill in the blank),” “It’s their own fault they’re ….(fill in the blank),” it gets pretty noisy in my head… Read More

“I” is for Intuition

What’s the difference between intuition and a nudge from God? Webster’s defines intuition as: “The ability to understand something immediately without the need for conscious reasoning.” It’s mysterious and forceful. It sounds and feels deeply spiritual to me, or is it just part of the way we’re wired? Why is intuition more freely attributed to women than to men? Anyone? Anyone?

“H” is for Help!

“Help, I need somebody. Help, not just anybody. Help, you know I need someone. Help!” The Beatles I love the spirituality of the Beatles song “Help!” I doubt Lennon and McCartney were thinking of God when they wrote “Help,” but you have to admit there’s a powerful message in those lyrics (and many other Beatles tunes as well.) Just consider the opening: * “Help, I need somebody.” First of all, they’re admitting they.. Read More

“G” is for Gratitude

One of my favorite songs, ever, is “Grateful” by John Bucchino. If you want to have a spiritual experience, just listen. He captures the struggle and joy of boiling life down to its basics in order to hit the “reset” button. It’s no secret that the quickest way to turn your day around, especially if it’s one of those really lousy, no good, terrible, horrible days, is to find something to be grateful.. Read More

“F” is for fear

In the August 2009 issue of YOGA JOURNAL, there is an article entitled “No Worries.” At first I thought it was yet another missive telling me, basically, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy,” (which, by the way, was a mantra first uttered not by Bobby McFerrin, but by Indian mystic, Meher Baba). This business of worry/fear is a subject that has fascinated me for years. In my therapy and coaching practice, the majority of people.. Read More